My Friend, Doubt

I have this friend who some have suggested is a negative influence in my life. I’m guessing that people don’t particularly enjoy his company because he’s constantly challenging their assumptions, beliefs and perspectives. He is “that guy”, who has no ability to simply go with the flow and be hospitable at the table.  It would be an understatement if one suggested that he was lacking in social grace. He insists on telling everyone that they’re either wrong, mostly wrong or even on rare occasions, kind of wrong. I admit, he’s an acquired taste and I’ll be the first to suggest that perhaps you shouldn’t spend all of your time accepting his influence. 

There are those who have made it a part of their lifestyle to avoid him altogether. They make plans and chart courses for their lives to ensure they never have to have a conversation with him. As soon as they see him walking towards them in a crowd, they turn and run the other way. My friend does not do well in large gatherings as his presence threatens any sense of confidence that comes from strength in numbers. 

Over the years, I’ve come to appreciate his insight because his questions have stopped me from walking out into the middle of a busy street when I was oblivious to danger. He’s helped me make better leadership decisions; he’s kept me from being complacent and is always challenging me to be honest. When I would rather believe fiction, he helps me interpret facts. 

My friend’s name is Doubt. My suggestion to you is to not be afraid of having a chat with him every once in a while. Keep talking to him until the full truth of the matter is revealed. Over time Doubt’s challenges have been like small inoculations into my spirit that have given strength to my faith and confidence in dark times.

Doubt can be your friend too because he will give your faith its greatest strength, the strength that comes from listening.  I know this about doubt: once the full truth comes out, he usually stops speaking, rests and smiles. You see, truth is his treasure and he rejoices when you find it. 

My good friend Doubt. Invite him to your place of worship, be sure to bring him to your most important discussions at work. Please, make sure you welcome him to your next campfire conversations with friends you trust.

Note: I originally wrote this a five years ago, but I believe more than ever that a bit of humility that comes from a healthy amount of doubt would serve us all well.